When it comes to sex, there have been far too many to-dos, what-to-dos and what-not-do-dos, since time immemorial. Half of these are based on realistic facts, but the rest are pure fiction. Unfortunately, due to lack of proper information, many relationships go awry. If you have been one of the many victims of sex myths, it’s time to forget what you’ve heard so far. We separate the frisky fact from fiction and put these popular beliefs to bed.
Fantasizing about someone else during the act is bad Get this clear before entering any relationship. Sexual experience primarily starts from the brain and not just the organ. And the brain does have a tendency to wander. What matters most in a relationship is commitment. If that’s in place, doesn’t matter whether you think of a Bipasha Basu or Brad Pitt while in bed.
Women are safe if a guy pulls out before ejaculation Bad news on that front, guys. Men do not always realise when the ejaculatory fluid seeps out. This contains sperm which gets released and it’s enough to get your partner pregnant.
Men think about sex every seven seconds One wonders where this number popped up from. According to a research conducted by the Kinsey institute, USA, I4 per cent of men think about sex every day or several times a day, 43 per cent a few times per month or per week and 4 per cent less than once a month.
Interestingly, it was reported that 19 per cent of women think about sex every day or several times a day, 67 per cent a few times per month or a few times per week and 14 per cent less than once a month. When it comes to number crunching, both sexes are pretty much equal.
Oral sex is safer than its vaginal counterpart Oral sex counts as sex as well. Hence you are not totally immune from getting a sexually transmitted disease if you only indulge in oral sex. As there is an exchange of fluids, diseases can enter your body through sores or small cuts in your mouth and throat.
Men are always ready for sex One of the most prevalent myths about male sexuality is that men are never too tired for sex. Fact is, men are not robots. They get stressed and tired as well, and sometimes may just not be in the mood to have sex. Besides, they are driven by emotions too, which in turn affect their libido.
So if your man is not responding to your overtures, it doesn’t mean he isn’t interested in you anymore. He may simply not be in the mood.
Size matters For the nth time, men, STOP looking down, because it doesn’t matter. Instead, get a copy of the Kamasutra and work (hard) on getting the right technique. When you know the real art of pleasuring your partner, chances are, she won’t even realise how big (or small) your organ really is. Give it a topping of love and get the ‘performer’ tag no size can ever help you earn.
If all else fails, Viagra will always come to your rescue The band-aid solutions (aka Viagra) to big problems (aka erectile dysfunction) are bound to give disappointing results. Instead, consult an expert, get to the root of the problem and have it treated accordingly.
Moreover, if disorders like hypertension and diabetes are the culprits behind the lack of ‘lift’, oral medications can lead to serious side-effects. So save yourself from the all-knowing quack expert within you and junk that pill till you know exactly what you are doing.
After a certain age, sex is no longer important The person who came up with this idea must have been a party pooper. If you are capable of having sex (and feel like it), just do it. It’s as simple as that.
Moreover, the positive physical and emotional repercussions of frequent sex can even add some years to your life. With age, loss of libido is common, but factors such as hormonal issues, depression, communication problems with partner and anxiety disorders play an equally important role.
Most men are not interested in foreplay Most women believe that men usually have one goal when it comes to sex and that is reaching an orgasm. But a lot of men have thankfully risen above just the orgasm and are attentive to the needs of their partners. In fact, men enjoy foreplay as well, as it helps them to keep the performance stress away and think about something other than their erection.
Great sex just happens True. It ‘just happens’ once in a while. But if you wish to have a fulfilling sex life where each encounter leaves you wanting for more, stand up and take charge. There’s no standard ‘to-do’ list that will work wonders for everyone every time, which is why good communication and mutual willingness to experiment is a must. That mindblowing sex will end with an orgasm in bed, but starts with a stimulating conversation on the couch.